What Are the Top Reasons for Divorce?
Research on the top reasons for divorce reveals the following:
One of the top reasons for divorce is lack of communication. You can’t have a good relationship if either one of you can’t or won’t discuss your feelings, can’t talk about your issues, holds resentment against the other, and expects the other to know what the problem is all about. Unfortunately, we cannot read each other’s minds. We must learn to be effective communicators or our relationships will fail.
Divorces happen because people fail to discuss their expectations in detail prior to their marriage, and then aren’t willing to work on their issues afterwards. They want quick solutions rather than having to work to resolve the issues. People have gotten divorced for reasons as trivial as snoring.
People who come from divorced homes are more likely to get divorced than those from intact homes. If you’ve seen your parents go through divorce, it seems like less of a big deal.
People who get married when they are 23 – 27 years old are more likely to stay married than people who are in their teens when they marry.
People who lived together before marriage have a higher rate of divorce than those who didn’t live together.
Quite often, the problems that cause the divorce existed in the relationship long before the couple got married. The problems were either ignored or not acknowledged with the hope that getting married would fix everything. It doesn’t work this way. Be forewarned. If there were problems before the marriage, they do not miraculously disappear with a wedding. As someone wise once said, it takes two wholes to make a marriage work, not two halves.
Do these top reasons for divorce apply to you? If you feel that you may be headed for divorce, it would be wise to talk with an experienced family law attorney so you understand your options and likely outcomes, based on your situation. Call Lynchburg Family Lawyer M. Marcy Jones for an appointment at 434-845-2463 or use her contact form to send her a message. Whether you decide to go ahead with a divorce or not, you’ll be better off if you make an informed decision.
Attorney Marcy Jones has been helping clients in family law cases in Central Virginia for many years and she was one of the first lawyers to be trained in collaborative divorce law. Marcy’s also a trained mediator. Her collaborative training and mediation training give her the skills to help clients attain the best possible solutions to the emotionally and financially difficult issues in divorce.